Fall 2004 - Family Violence Prevention

Original Play has been a part of the Family Violence Prevention Program, a shelter for battered women and their children, in Wheeling, West Virginia for the past eight years. Daniel Caron volunteers and plays with the children who are utilizing the program’s services.

Daniel Recently asked Claudia Raymer, Child Advocate, at the Family Violence Prevention Program to reflect on the use of Original Play at the facility.

Daniel:  How important is it for the children who stay at the Center to experience healthy touch and connection?

Claudia:  It's imperative.  A lot of them only experience healthy touch and connection while they are in the shelter.  It's something they probably haven't experienced before.  And a lot of times they only get that from staff or when they come to you (to play).

Daniel:  Do you see any changes in the behaviors of children as the result of playing and if so, what changes?

Claudia:  You know after you come (to play) a lot of times when we go upstairs and finish our other hour you’ll hear them (the children) say things like "we have to be kind!"  So definitely it has an impact on the children.  The regulars in the group, I think they are the most affected because they get that repetition.  They get to see it (play) over and over and so it helps them to feel safe.  This is somewhere where I can come where nobody is going to yell at me, nobody is going to use mean words to me, so they have better behavior because they feel safe and respected.

Daniel:  That's great to hear. Would it be beneficial to develop play programs at other domestic violence shelters, and if so, why?  What are your thoughts about this?

Claudia:  I think it definitely would be beneficial.  You know, children by nature want to play and wrestle.  When you have a child from a home that has experienced domestic violence their basis for wrestling and touching is often very rough and hurtful.  Yes, because it gives them a basis for kind touch and gentle play. And also because it is you doing it, because you are an adult male, it gives them a different perspective on an adult male as far as a role model and seeing that an adult male can play without trying to cause somebody harm.

Daniel:  That's really great to hear.  Thank you.